yes exactly and when your adopted indian son moves into your house and insists on eating soup with bread instead of a spoon - that is where you have grace. Because all the details are going to get together eventually. The job of the parent is to love - and set boundaries for optimal growth - which our heavenly Abba has covered quite extensively. We don't expect perfection from adopted kids - but it would be nice if the kids already living in the house would be a little more welcoming...